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Measured love?!

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By Maureen Mennor Nwaezeigwe



Is it not possible to LOVE all your children equally?

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  1. Thelegend19 October 2017 at 23:30

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  2. Unknown19 October 2017 at 23:36

    All parents? No, of course not. Go to any parenting forum anywhere and you’ll find that there isn’t a single aspect of parenting that “all parents” agree on.
    But it’s worth mentioning that “equal” doesn’t mean “in the same way”. And “love” can look different from relationship to relationship.
    Me the eldest son is the heart of my Mom. I am quiet and quirky and introspective. I feel things more deeply than anyone else She's ever met. Am a complex, abstract thinker with simple physical needs. The way my mind works is absolutely extraordinary different, and fills her with joy and pride. She feel physical pain when I'm hurting—whether my pain is physical or emotional. I remind her so much of herself when she was a child.I know all this Cause she Spend time telling people and me also...
    My mom will say we are all special and unique and that we couldn’t be more different if she'd sat down and purposefully selected opposing attributes for us before we were born. And she love us all more than i ever knew it was possible to love another human being.
    it’s easy to think one child is the favourite because of the way love is expressed. However, the other point to keep in mind is that children may not feel loved at all if their parents aren’t expressing love in the way they need to receive it.

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    1. Unknown19 October 2017 at 23:37

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  3. Makindeayo20 October 2017 at 08:31

    So what if your child posed the question of whom you love more between him/her or the sibling? You cannot lie, so what will you say?

    Should a 'special' child be loved more than one who is normal? Should a more brilliant child be given more love than the not so smart kid?

    I don't think the question of equal love for our children should arise because it suggests some kind of comparison already. We should love each child the same way, not equally. God, for instance, doesn't have favorites because He doesn't show partiality simply because one prays more. He simply responds to our alignment with His principles, but doesn't prefer one to another (for some this is debatable but that's topic for a future symposium). God loves us the same, and so should we.

    There is a delicate balance between equal and same. Each child is peculiar and should be so treated. Our expectations of one child will be different from the other. What is expected of a first child will be different from a last.

    A 'special' child will need more attention for obvious reasons, but not necessarily more affection; another delicate balance.

    Let us make it clear to each child that he or she is unique. What is good for one may not be so good for the other. Equal love will mean giving each of them the same thing; loving each child the same way means showing love to each as best suits them.

    With these few words of mine...

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  4. Single Momhood21 October 2017 at 13:20

    Very interesting angles coming from you guys, am so excited, do keep it coming.

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